Why Domestic Infant Adoption? Part 2

After a healthy infant from Korea was not an option, we started to wonder if God wanted us to consider a child with health problems.  Those problems could range anywhere from a child with a parent who has ADHD to child who is severely disabled.  Yes, unfortunately just as many of the Asian countries want perfect parents, they also want perfect babies.  And where we might say, "What's the problem?" they see an imperfect baby. So they say, imperfect parents, can get the imperfect babies.  Anyone else saddened by that? So these children are called waiting children, because they've been passed over by many adopting couples.  And because of this, if we want to get a waiting child, we can go to any agency in the country.

I picked an agency I loved and started to fill out the application.  And then my heart really started to desire a baby.  Pasture and I had really liked the idea of being beyond that stage and getting a toddler.  But after Korea became so difficult, I really kept coming back to the idea of bringing home a little baby.  Korea, along with many other countries, have lengthened their adoption process so much, that gone are the days of bringing home a child under 1.  Most likely, your child will be close to 2 years old when they come home.  There are exceptions, but you have to be prepared for that.  And as I see my girls growing more and more fond of babies, I can't help but smile as I imagine, Monkey, holding her tiny baby brother for the first time and stroking his hair like I've seen her do before.

Over the next several days, as I feverishly researched every country in the world, I continued to come back to the idea getting a newborn from our own country.  And you may be wondering why I didn't look into domestic adoption at the beginning. It was simply because I believed a lot of the common myths that surround domestic adoptions.  And right now, I have to give my dog a bath, talk with Pasture, and get ready for Monkey's gymnastics!  I will tell you next time about those myths, and the call that settled the decision of where to adopt and which agency to use.